If you or someone you know is recently engaged, congratulations!!! This is such an exciting time! There are people to tell, a date to set, and all kinds of planning to think about.
Planning a wedding is such a big task that it’s often difficult to know where to even start.
Here are a few suggestions:
(1) Set a date…..maybe. This is often one of the very first things couples do when as soon as she says, “Yes!” Some couples pick a specific date for a specific reason. Maybe it’s the anniversary of their first date. Maybe it coincides with another special date in their lives. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If having the wedding on a certain date is very important, you can work everything else around it.
On the other hand……many couples choose few different possibilities. Then they make sure the perfect venue (or perfect photographer) (or perfect florist) is available on one of those dates. They allow those choices to point them toward their exact wedding date.
(2) Make a guest list. This doesn’t sound very exciting. And you might think it’s something that you would do closer to the wedding. However, you MUST have a pretty good idea of the approximate number of people that will attend your wedding. You don’t want to end up choosing a venue that is too small. (Or way too big.) Choosing who NOT to invite later on is awkward and sad. Trust me-I’ve seen it happen. So do your best to generate a good estimate of the number of people you plan to invite to share your special day.
(3) Choose a venue. And when you do, think about how you want your ceremony to FEEL. Churches tend to skew more formal. Barns and other outdoor locations create a more relaxed environment. Don’t be afraid to explore other location options, such as getting married at a museum, fancy hotel, etc. Really, the possibilities are endless. Your limiting factors will be your guest list and your budget.
(4) Book other main vendors. Photographers often book up over a year in advance. If there’s a certain person/company that you love, book them now! Many photographers offer engagement sessions as part of their wedding packages. The same goes for your favorite hair stylist. Or makeup artist. Or florist. Or DJ. The most popular day of the week for weddings is still Saturday, and there are only so many Saturdays in a year. Once your favorite vendor is booked by someone else, it’s too late. Also, consider hiring a wedding planner to help you with all of the details. It’s his/her job to get to know you and design the perfect wedding!
(5) Enjoy being engaged. Don’t wish away this special time in your life. Yes, your wedding is important. And, yes, it will be awesome! But you don’t have to spend every waking hour thinking about it. Set a timeline. Make lists. Things will fall into place. Don’t rush out and by the first dress you see. You will know “the one” when you try it on…..even if it takes a while. Savor this special time in your life. Enjoy your fiance. Enjoy your friends. Enjoy time spend with your parents and other family members. Take time to recharge yourself throughout the whole process. You will be so glad that you did!